Have you SEEN me?

Formerly Not So Much. . .the daily musings of a 26-year-old PYT whose self-love is superceded only by her obnoxiously endearing ability to remind you at all times just how fabulous she is. Guys too stupid to realize how lucky they are to be graced with her presence? Woman with 4-pack abs climbs onto the elliptical trainer next to her? Arrives at Chick-Fil-A at 10:37, only to learn she has missed her opportunity for a chicken biscuit? She throws all these setbacks off with disdain. . .after all, have you SEEN her??

Tuesday, June 15, 2004

Stealth Dating

I have always been the person, in dating situations, to explore the possibility of dating so immediately that I think sometimes, things rev up and then peter out so equally fast. . . I've just never thought I was going to date someone I already knew, cause you start dating someone. . .well, pretty immediately after meeting them if you're going to, that's my theory. I still sort of hang on to this theory. . .at least, you know you're interested from moment 1. (Well, I do anyway.) But I'm getting more patience with "stealth dating," that is, working the magic over weeks, months even. . .being very very casual and just continuing to run into the person, until they finally get the clue and ask you out, or until you've established a level of comfort such that they would ask you out. When you get out of college and you're not seeing your crush every day, such that things are on an exagerated timetable, but you still live in a town approximately the size of a large college, thereby running into the same people all the time. . .but slightly less often. . .this is a viable way of doing things.

Example: I have a crush on a guy at my gym. I saw him out at a bar one night and oh so smoothly suggested that he and I went to the same gym. He didn't jump all over me that night, but we did chat, and as I was leaving the bar (although he was by then talking to someone else), he grabbed my arm, and said, "It was nice talking to you, see you next time." Then, I saw him in Publix a few weeks ago, and he said "I thought that was you!" and flirted outrageously with me. I told him I hadn't seen him in the gym in a while. . .and now, in the last few weeks, I've seen him 3 or 4 times. The first couple times, we just smiled or waved. Then, I plopped myself right on the elliptical trainer next to him one day and we chatted. Last night, we reached a new level. He actually came up to me on his way out, as I was on my elliptical trainer, and struck up a conversation with me. This may not seem like a big deal, but on the stealth dating track, we move a little further each time towards the inevitable date. In addition, it's kind of intimidating to go up and attempt to talk to someone who has their headphones on, and presume they'll pause their music and chat with you. He could've easily just waved or smiled, but no, he chose to TALK to me. He's so going to ask me out. I've been working on this for months (seriously, I think it was mid-April when I saw him out).

Prediction: next step, he either asks me what I'm doing closer to the weekend and tries to feel out whether we might run into each other in a more "phone number exchange friendly" environment, or he finally breaks down and asks me out despite the fact that I am shiny with sweat on an elliptical trainer.

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