Have you SEEN me?

Formerly Not So Much. . .the daily musings of a 26-year-old PYT whose self-love is superceded only by her obnoxiously endearing ability to remind you at all times just how fabulous she is. Guys too stupid to realize how lucky they are to be graced with her presence? Woman with 4-pack abs climbs onto the elliptical trainer next to her? Arrives at Chick-Fil-A at 10:37, only to learn she has missed her opportunity for a chicken biscuit? She throws all these setbacks off with disdain. . .after all, have you SEEN her??

Friday, November 05, 2004

What part of. . .

TJ's irritation is not about me is unclear? I came down on TJ for making an irritating mistake. It was especially irritating to me in light of the fact that he frequently asks me to clarify things that have come up recently in the past, when he WASN'T listening. Not listening is an irritating thing to do to one's girlfriend. However, that was over, done with, and apologized for before TJ began unloading his other MAJOR annoyances on me. I'm not saying I didn't contribute to his stressed mood. I probably did, but I immediately became a kind, nurturing sweetheart once I realized what a crappy day he was having. However, he continued to be in a crappy mood. And ultimately, at heart, I think that probably has more to do with his parents not speaking to one another when he and all his siblings are coming to visit and all be together for the first time in God-knows-when for his mother's birthday than it has to do with me. Or the fact that he's not seeing me this weekend and I'm going to be out carousing and getting into trouble with my girlfriends rather than being with him for the first time since we've known each other.

So, let me say it again for everyone: I am 100% certain that the vast majority of TJ's troubled psyche today has very very little to do with my sarcasm regarding his phone error. It still hurts my feelings when he pulls away from me because he's in a bad mood, even one that has very very little to do with me. I hope he feels better. But this is about HIM, not me. For once. Trust me.

Secondly, while I appreciate the kind words of encouragement, criticizing me for something I did YESTERDAY (for which I've already realized my error and apologized) does not help me TODAY. It only hurts my feelings more. This is a good piece of advice to apply to all situations calling for good friendship actually: if your friend has a problem, don't give her/him "what for" for what's already done, try to help her/him make the best choice with what she/he has NOW.

So, again, we're not fighting, not about what number he called me at or otherwise. He's just having a bad day and is in a bad mood. My question was. . .should I go to him and try to make him feel better, or wait for him to come to me if he thinks I can make him feel better? And I don't need the answer anymore, thanks.

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