Words of Wisdom from Mom

He wrote my parents a card, after meeting them, that he was glad to meet them and all of that, and apparently added a line that it was nice to get to know them and he felt he had gained "some insight into the cryptic inner-workings of the one we call Miss Have You." My mother said it just made her soul swell. She said she wanted to call him and say, "You're exactly the kind of young man every mother hopes her daughter will bring home," but she knew she couldn't. She said, "you know, his comment just made me know that he's taken someone I love and he loves her too, and wants to get to understand her and he thinks about her 'inner workings.' And to think that he cares about her so much that he actually CARES what *I* think." So, Mom thinks he hearts me. And she hearts him and has demanded that I not let him get away. Apparently he also put a little smiley face after the comment, "like it makes him smile just thinking about you!"

I said, "well, mom, I'll try and not let him get away, but I'm kind of crazy you know, and I know I drive him crazy sometimes." She said, "Well, we all are. No one's a picnic all the time. How boring would life be if we all were." I shared with her that he was a jerk this weekend and that he apologized to me very maturely and how impressed I was. I don't mean to sound like I idol worship my boyfriend too much, but seriously, for a moment. I said to Mom, "This man is of such great stature, both physically and mentally, that people DEFER to him. He doesn't HAVE to apologize to people. People throw themselves at his judgment. So for him to care enough about having hurt my feelings and want to say he's sorry to little ole' me. . .that MEANS something." It really does. TJ is incredibly intelligent and incredibly large, and people really do just flock to his charm and charisma and subtle sense of command. He's a natural leader, you might say. So for me to challenge him and not accept everything he says as law. . .well, you could say he's not used to it. And he NEEDS that from time to time. Lucky he found me, hunh?

So I explained to mom that we're trying, fighting aside, and I really felt we were making progress. She said, "Well you both have tempers and get angry, just try not to be angry at the same time." I told her that I'd admitted that I was no 100% sweetheart all the time, but neither was he, and what's more, how could he be with a woman who was?? He'd walk all over her and she'd be in an insane asylum. . .he needs someone with a little attitude to "handle" his attitude!

My mother said, "Bah! How could you stand someone who's so syrupy sweet all the time?" She also didn't balk at my assertion that relationships take work, and even said what I frequently do, "But if it's worth it, you WANT to do it and come to understand that person." And my mom's a pretty smart lady. Go Mom.

You've SEEN me, but have you SEEN her? This is the woman I get it from. She's crazy as a shithouse rat, but loveable nonetheless.