Have you SEEN me?

Formerly Not So Much. . .the daily musings of a 26-year-old PYT whose self-love is superceded only by her obnoxiously endearing ability to remind you at all times just how fabulous she is. Guys too stupid to realize how lucky they are to be graced with her presence? Woman with 4-pack abs climbs onto the elliptical trainer next to her? Arrives at Chick-Fil-A at 10:37, only to learn she has missed her opportunity for a chicken biscuit? She throws all these setbacks off with disdain. . .after all, have you SEEN her??

Tuesday, June 29, 2004

I'm not your girlfriend, dude. You'll know if I am.

Well that explains it!

Once a guy told me that he wouldn't sleep with a girl unless she was his girlfriend. He seemed a little offended that my requirements weren't so stringent. I quickly figured out that he made people his "girlfriend" far more casually than I would become one.

Excluding high school, which doesn't count, I've had three "boyfriends" in my life.

Like, real ones. That lasted longer than a couple months. Boyfriend to me means EXCLUSIVE. And those three relationships were 2 years +, 1 1/2 years, and just short of 2 years. This guy had a "girlfriend" every time he turned around. I'm not going to make someone my boyfriend just to get to sleep with him. Why bother?

Another guy told me that he wouldn't date someone he wouldn't consider marrying

He told me the other day that his girlfriend of 6 months was getting on his nerves and that he thought a good way to break up with her (not that he's made that decision yet) would be leave a note while she was in the shower or something. !! Maybe both these guys should put a little more thought into who they make their "girlfriends." There's no need to rush. If you want to grant the relationship some degree of "importance" (i.e. "it's a sexual relationship now," or "we're serious and on the track to marriage now"). . .geez, take a little more time to make an "important" decision. One you're not going to flake out on down the line.

Boyfriends are something it's hard to get rid of

I mean, I don't want to get into a Relationship, Capital "R", those are kind of hard to end. As long as you're just dating, it's easier to end. I mean, I guess when feelings start to get involved, there's no stopping them, no matter what you "label" it, but you shouldn't "commit" to the idea of a Relationship until both parties are serious. I wouldn't date anyone I wouldn't consider marrying either. I've also never thought about breaking up with one of those people after 6 months!

I've MADE Mistakes, I Haven't MARRIED My Mistakes

I've known several on-again-off-again relationships to all of a sudden bloom into marriages. It's not a good sign when you call up a friend to ask him to be a groomsman only to have him ask, "Oh y'all are back together?" It's like those couples who have babies because their marriage is suffering. . .getting married is apparently a viable way to save an ailing relationship too.

Who are these people who take relationships so casually? Am I weird because I don't?



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