This Guy's Going to be Tough to Get Rid Of
So I ignored Keith's call last night, call him back late tonight, and he immediately sort of asks me,
"Well didn't I call you yesterday?"
"Yeah. It was late."
"Yeah, I'm sorry, I didn't think it was too late."
"Yeah, it wasn't. I was just on my way to bed."
"Did you just not answer?" (Busted.)
After him establishing that this is in fact what I had done, not answered, I say, "Do you know why I didn't answer?? I was pissed off."
"Aha! I knew it!" he replies.
So we get into this discussion about how ignorant he sounded, how uncalled for his comment was, and how distasteful I found it; I did not call him ignorant, in fact, conceded that I think he's very intelligent, which is why the comment even more seemed to come out of left field. He insists he was joking, and (keep in mind, I haven't revealed the true source of my sensitivity on this issue) that he has nothing against gay people, he was just making a ignorant, backwoods-redneck-mocking sort of joke. . .in short, he was trying to sound ignorant. . .to be funny. . .I didn't buy it at first, but after a 15 minute conversation about it, I sort of did. I really think he was joking. I really think he was trying to sound ignorant. . .to be funny. . .as not funny as I found that. . .I think he probably does have some latent insecurities about homosexuals, most straight men do, but all in all, I think his comment. . .like him. . .was relatively innocuous.
Well, there's that, and he kissed my ass with apologies and promised to never make off-color comments in front of me again. And I said, "Keith that's not the point. I don't know that I'd want to date someone who would make them at all" (still annoyed and a bit belligerant, early in the conversation). At first he replied, "Well I don't know that I want to date someone who can't take a joke." Dead silence (this is it, we're breaking up, YES!). But then, he back-peddles. . ."Look, I'm sorry, I won't do it again. . ." for the next 10 minutes. . .then, of course, he tells me about the one gay guy he ever knew and he was damn cool, etc. etc. I did end up telling him about my brothers, but then suggested that while that undoubtedly influenced my beliefs, I am still a flaming liberal and proud of it, towards all minority and socially disfavored groups. So watch it buddy.
Oh, God, I think Sadie is finally throwing up that package of Nutter Butters from Saturday, I can hear her wretching. . .
Point being. . .I tried to break up with him. I suggested it. Then all of a sudden, it turned into a conversation about how sorry he was, how he would be more careful, and he's (yes, he said this) "glad we had this conversation now, I mean, we just starting seeing each other and there's going to be stuff we don't know about each other. . ." Gag me with a spoon. 2 weeks, tops. Back on Keithwatch. Am I evil for being so blase about this while he's clearly not??