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Formerly Not So Much. . .the daily musings of a 26-year-old PYT whose self-love is superceded only by her obnoxiously endearing ability to remind you at all times just how fabulous she is. Guys too stupid to realize how lucky they are to be graced with her presence? Woman with 4-pack abs climbs onto the elliptical trainer next to her? Arrives at Chick-Fil-A at 10:37, only to learn she has missed her opportunity for a chicken biscuit? She throws all these setbacks off with disdain. . .after all, have you SEEN her??

Monday, November 29, 2004

Fucking Casually

I'm not using the term "one night stand" anymore. People get confused about what it means, and technically, I'm not really interested in whether they had sex with someone only once or not. I'm interested in whether they've ever treated sex as less than a full-on loving, monogamous, spiritual expression of one's relationship in a monogamous setting. . .

I've heard at least a few guys say that they've "never had a one night stand" and I know some girls who would probably put themselves into this category as well. It implies that they've never had casual sex. It implies that they've never had sex with someone they were less than at least somewhat serious about. Well, as you get to know them, you find that TECHNICALLY, they've never only had sex with someone ONCE. Well, actually, though, you can have pretty damn near casual sex with someone that you TECHNICALLY have gone out with a few times. You can not care a smidge about the relationship, it's just who you're dating at the moment. But it's casual sex. It's not ONE time, but it's casual sex. And isn't it the same difference? It's basically a one night stand enshrouded by the mantle of limited dinner and movie plans, designed to get in said person's pants, and perhaps TECHNICALLY lasting more than one night. . .a few weeks, perhaps!

I've had one night stands that took place over several nights :-) They were still one night stands. They just got repeated a couple times. And I wouldn't call the guys I dated briefly and had sex with one night stands, but they were damn casual. Isn't it a bit misleading to say, "I've NEVER had a one night stand," when you've merely graced your one night (or month) stands with the more polite monicker of dating, because a couple meals and a few movies were involved? We're talking about FUCKING CASUALLY. That's all I want to know. Have you ever fucked casually? With someone who wasn't really a girlfriend/boyfriend?

There's no judgment, but don't look me straight in the face and tell me you've never had a one night stand because you technically made the bad choice to "date" some people who probably weren't dateworthy, just 'cause you wanted to fuck him/her. It's just a bit misleading. You don't have to date everyone you want to fuck. Two different things. (No one's judging.)

What do you guys think?

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