Have you SEEN me?

Formerly Not So Much. . .the daily musings of a 26-year-old PYT whose self-love is superceded only by her obnoxiously endearing ability to remind you at all times just how fabulous she is. Guys too stupid to realize how lucky they are to be graced with her presence? Woman with 4-pack abs climbs onto the elliptical trainer next to her? Arrives at Chick-Fil-A at 10:37, only to learn she has missed her opportunity for a chicken biscuit? She throws all these setbacks off with disdain. . .after all, have you SEEN her??

Wednesday, March 31, 2004

Having ended a two-year relationship last Summer/Fall, I was single for about 6 months before getting "seriously involved" (read: dating to the point of being "boyfriend-girlfriend"). When I first became single, it seems like I had maybe only one or two other single girlfriends, which is pretty scary to a newly single person coming off a long-term relationship. Then a month or two later, another girlfriend joined me. And a few months later, another. Insert a few new friends that I met who are single, and voila, suddenly I was once again surrounded by single girlfriends. Which brings me to a question...

Is it contagious? Like, you know how there's that urban legend/truth? that women who are around each other end up on the same cycle? Well, I'm beginning to think the same is true of being single. But why?

Here's my thought -- One girl becomes single. She initially panics because she's forgotten how to be single, doesn't know anyone else who's single, etc. Then she starts going out, meeting people. Maybe she meets a few hotties. She definitely meets a few losers that are so pathetic they become the butt of all jokes for a week or two. (i.e. John the Crier, or Zack the indian-giver). And maybe the girls in relationships begin to get jealous, or at least remember how much fun it used to be when they were single. Of course, it didn't feel "fun" at the time, but from the vantage point of a somewhat stale, very "comfortable" relationship, being single seems exciting again. The girls with boyfriends end up coming out for a "Girls' Night" or two, and suddenly, if there were nagging problems in their relationship, those problems now seem intolerable given the freedom and fun that awaits them on "the other side". Next thing you know, a few of the girls with boyfriends are suddenly "dating other people", "taking a break", or just plain "single and rebounding". Who knows if these breaks will last once the girl meets her share of losers out at the bars (many go running back once they see "the other side" close up), but point being, singleness seems to be contagious.

Until the tides shift again... any one else have thoughts on this???

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OK, after being introduced by a friend, I'm now addicted to reading other people's rantings on life, love and whatnot. And those who know me well will not be surprised that I just couldn't resist having my own forum of random thoughts.

My plan is to post (hopefully) humorous commentary on the things that pop up in my life. Given my very colorful array of friends, there should be no shortage of material, but my plan is that I'll keep my blogs totally anonymous, which should make it all the more interesting to try to figure out who the people I mention (without names) actually are. In some cases it should be VERY easy. Others not so much.

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